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Self-pity or recovery—it’s our choice. “Self-pity is one of the most destructive of defects; it will drain us of all positive energy.”. – Basic Text, p. 80. In active addiction, many of us used self-pity as a survival mechanism. We didn’t believe there was an alternative to living in our disease — or perhaps we didn’t want to ...One of the illusions shared by many of us who have been affected by alcoholism is that only another person, usually the alcoholic, can fill that empty place within us. If only he were more attentive, if only she got sober, if only they were with me now, I wouldn’t be lonely. But many of us remain just as lonely even after those conditions are ...21 hours ago · Fear of the Fourth Step. “As we approach this step, most of us are afraid that there is a monster inside of us that, if released, will destroy us.”. – Basic Text, p. 27. Most of us are terrified to look at ourselves, to probe our insides. We’re afraid that if we examine our actions and motives, we’ll find a bottomless black pit of ...
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A closed mind “A new idea cannot be grafted onto a closed mind…. Open-mindedness leads us to the very insights that have eluded us during our lives.”There are white running backs in the NFL. They include Rex Burkhead of the Houston Texans, Christian McCaffery of the Carolina Panthers and Ryan Nall of the Chicago Bears. Several ...One Day at a Time in Al-Anon: Despair—how many of us suffer from it! Yet we do not realize that it is purely the absence of faith. We cannot despair as long as we are willing to turn to God for help in our extremity.When we raised our hand as a newcomer, we opened the door for other members to approach us and welcome us. Sometimes the difference between those addicts who walk back out the door of their first meeting, never to return to NA, and the addicts who stay to seek recovery is the simple hug of an NA member. When we have been clean awhile, it’s ...Today’s Reminder: I will reach out to another Al-Anon member today. If that person is busy or unavailable, I’ll make another call. “We must learn to lean on others, and sometimes accept others’ leaning on us. We can’t do it alone.”. – Alateen—Hope for Children of Alcoholics. From the book “Courage to Change”.Meditation for the Day: Avoid fear as you would a plague. Even the smallest fear hacks at the cords of faith that bind you to God. However small the fraying, in time those cords will wear thin, and then one disappointment or shock will make them snap.Learning about the disease of alcoholism can help me become more realistic about a loved one’s illness—and thus to make better choices for myself. “I have learned techniques for dealing with the alcoholic, so that I can develop a relationship with the person behind the disease.”. – Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism. From the book “Courage to ...Before coming to Narcotics Anonymous, many of us lived lives of utter hopelessness. We believed we were destined to die from our disease. Many members speak of being on a “pink cloud” their first months in the program. We’ve stopped using, made some friends, and life looks promising. Things are going great.Courage to Change: Before I discovered Al-Anon I often used other people’s problems as an excuse to avoid my obligations. I loved the drama of another’s crisis and talked about it at every opportunity. My own life seemed increasingly trivial, and my problems felt silly. It was therefore very difficult for me to focus on myself when I came ... We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Courage to Change: Today I seek to become a little more accepting of myself, a little more comfortable in my own skin. Although it is important to recognize and admit my limitations and flaws, only my Higher Power can remove them. Condemning my imperfections has never enhanced my appreciation of life or helped me to love myself more.I have an important part to play in my relationship with my Higher Power — I have to be willing to receive help, and I have to ask for it. If I develop the habit of turning to my Higher Power for help with small, everyday matters, I’ll know what to do when faced with more difficult challenges. “In the hour of adversity be not without hope.A daily reflection for Narcotics Anonymous members based on the book "NA Just for Today". Learn how to lay a secure foundation for your recovery and build a …DAILY PONDERABLES Together WE Trudge The Road OF Happy Destiny Daily Reflections LOOKING OUTWARD We ask especially for freedom from self-will and are …I also learned about myself by listening in meetings—when I identified with others, I gained insight into my own thoughts and feelings. Today I know that I am a passionate, generous, opinionated, moody, honest, tactful, stubborn person. I know how I feel and what I think on an assortment of topics, and I am aware when these thoughts …Are we having fun yet? “ln time, we can relax and enjoy the atmosphere of recovery.” – Basic Text, p. 56. Imagine what would happen if a newcomer walked into one of our meetings and was met by a group of grim-faced people gripping the arms of their chairs with white knuckles.Courage to Change: After working Al-Anon’s Twelve Steps zealously for over a year, I was despondent over my continuing lapses into self-pity and resentment over the alcoholic’s inability to give me the emotional support I wanted. One evening during a meditation on the Sixth and Seventh Steps, three words seemed to flash in my mind: We …Dec 7, 2023 · Meditation for the Day: It is in the union of a soul with God that strength, new life, and spiritual power come. Bread sustains the body, but we cannot live by bread alone. If you regularly use a dishwasher in your kitchen and you run out of dishwasher liquid, you’ve likely pondered if just normal dish soap will work in the machine. Tempting though it...AA Thought for the Day: In AA we often hear the slogan “Easy does it.” Alcoholics always do everything to excess. They drink too much. They worry too much.
May 6, 2024 · Thankfully, our newcomers are usually met by a group of friendly, smiling folks who are obviously fairly content with the lives they’ve found in Narcotics Anonymous. What an enormous amount of hope this provides! A newcomer, whose life has been deadly serious, is strongly attracted by an atmosphere of laughter and relaxation. Meditation for the Day: In the new year, I will live one day at a time. I will make each day one of preparation for better things ahead. I will not dwell on the past or the future, only on the present.One Day at a Time in Al-Anon: Sometimes I find myself relapsing into the old patterns that used to dominate my thinking and feeling before I knew Al-Anon. I was crushed and defeated by the daily battering of living with an alcoholic. I was afraid of everything and everybody. Then, by attending meetings, and reading Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism, my ...Meditation for the Day: Calmness is constructive of good. Agitation is destructive of good. I should not rush into action. I should first be still and know that He is God. Then I should act only as God directs me through my conscience. Only trust, perfect trust in God, can keep me calm when all around me are agitated. Calmness is trust in …Meditation for the Day: You were meant to be at home and comfortable in the world. Yet some people live a life of quiet desperation. This is the opposite of being at home and at peace in the world.
Courage to Change. “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things l cannot change, the courage to change the things l can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”. – Serenity Prayer. Recovery involves change, and change means doing things differently. The problem is, many of us resist doing things differently; what we’re doing …With Meta, Facebook's Mark Zuckerberg envisions the kind of virtual world one might find in science fiction novels. James Heskett ponders how long it will take for this "Metaverse"...…
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Today’s Reminder: As I look back over this year, I will consider calmly my actions and attitudes, just as though I were evaluating the progress of someone else. I will not make it an occasion for guilt and regret. I will blame no one else for anything that happened, for I have learned in Al-Anon that I am not a judge of others. This day, and ...Learning about the disease of alcoholism can help me become more realistic about a loved one’s illness—and thus to make better choices for myself. “I have learned techniques for dealing with the alcoholic, so that I can develop a relationship with the person behind the disease.”. – Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism. From the book “Courage to ...
Just for Today. “When we stop living in the here and now, our problems become magnified unreasonably.”. – Basic Text, p. 99. “Just for today” — it’s a comforting thought. If we try to live in the past, we may find ourselves torn by painful, disquieting memories. The lessons of our using are not the teachers we seek for recovery.Courage to Change: What happens when I physically hold on tightly to something? I turn my head away. I squeeze my eyes shut. My knuckles ache as my fists clench.
Dec 7, 2023 · Meditation for the Day: It is in the union of a sou One of the illusions shared by many of us who have been affected by alcoholism is that only another person, usually the alcoholic, can fill that empty place within us. If only he were more attentive, if only she got sober, if only they were with me now, I wouldn’t be lonely. But many of us remain just as lonely even after those conditions are ... Meditation for the Day: Avoid fear as you would a plague. Even the Meditation for the Day: I will learn to overcome myself, because every blow to selfishness is used to shape the real, eternal, unperishable me.The love found in the rooms of Narcotics Anonymous helps us recover from addiction. But once we have gotten clean, we must remember to give to others what was so freely given to us. We need to reach out to the addict who still suffers. After all, “the newcomer is the most important person at any meeting.”. AA Thought for the Day: The way of AA is the way of sobriety, fellows God’s gifts. “We do the footwork and accept what’s being given to us freely on a daily basis.”. Our relationship with our Higher Power is a two-way street. In prayer, we speak and God listens. When we meditate, we do our best to listen for the will of our Higher Power. We know that we are responsible for our part of the relationship.There we sat with our Fourth Step in front of us, thinking and thinking, finally deciding that we just didn’t have any resentments. Perhaps we talked ourselves into believing that we weren’t so sick after all. Such unwitting denial of our resentments stems from the conditioning of our addiction. Most of our feelings were buried, and buried ... Daily Ponderables is your source for encouOn his desk, Dr. Bob had a plaque defining humility: “Perpetual This is when we must turn to our Higher Power We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. This is when we must turn to our Higher Pow Making it through the early days of recovery often feels like the hardest thing we’ve ever done. But the strength of our commitment to recovery and the power of God’s care is sufficient to carry us through, just for today. Our part in this partnership is to do the very best we can each day, showing up for life and doing what’s put in ...God’s will, not ours “We know that if we pray for God’s will we will receive what is best for us, regardless of what we think.” – Basic Text, p. 46 We begin to enjoy life, finding purpose in our existence. [Courage to Change: How often have I had a dream I longed to pursue, bNov 21, 2023 · Meditation for the Day: Y We once knew exactly what to expect, and now everything suddenly seems different. The homebody is never home; the life of the party is always sleeping; communication, intimacy, sex, responsibilities, and decision-making all change. At the same time, problems that we always attributed to drinking may persist even though the drinking has stopped.AA Thought for the Day: Have I got over most of my sensitiveness, my feelings that are too easily hurt, and my just plain laziness and self-satisfaction? Am I …